In Regret Free Parenting, author Catherine Hickem challenges
mothers to be "intentional." She has presented the same message
in her ministry, Intentional Moms, and now she brings it to life
in the seven principles she outlines in the book.
Hickem begins with a look at what she calls the "Motherhood Paradox"--explaining
that being a mom is bigger than the mother's children. She contrasts
the picture of a mom who focuses on the well-being of her children
with how important it is for her to also address her own needs.
The rest of the book is a clearly laid out roadmap for achieving
While the book promises to show you how to be a regret free parent,
Hickem makes it clear that it doesn't guarantee you won't make
mistakes. We all do. Intentional motherhood is a way of equipping
mothers to be confident in this important role. Hickem then lays
out the seven principles of intentional motherhood. First and second,
an intentional mom must be intentional about knowing her purpose
and knowing her children.
The third principle promises a peaceful life through the teenage
years if you are intentional in your role as a vision keeper. This
chapter alone is worth picking the book up if you have teens in
the house. Hickem provides some clear guidelines about parenting
teens in terms of recognizing the difference between mistakes and
failures, defining value, and creating confidence. It is an important
reminder that God loves us unconditionally and that His love is
reflected in our unconditional love of our children.
The fourth principle focuses on emotional intelligence--being
able to recognize and respond to the feelings of your children.
Hickem explains that our role is to recognize our children's emotions
and help them "process" their feelings. She points to Christ's
unconditional acceptance of people who crossed His path.
The fifth and sixth principles focus on recognizing and maintaining
your position of authority over your children and being intentional
about your own fears. In the latter, the difference between "control" and "intention" are
Finally, Hickem closes the circle with an exhortation to be God-dependent.
The example she gives at the beginning of the chapter will send
chills up your spine--demonstrating just how intimately God knows
us and "gets" the struggles we experience in everyday life.
Regret Free Parenting, which retails for $15.99, is
not uniquely a homeschool resource. However, given the mom-centric
nature of most homeschool families, it is an important read for
both moms and dads.